Sex Positions For A Woman To Reach Orgasm During Intercourse
Popular imagery - especially porn - can make us all feel inferior and inadequate when it comes to making love. Men think they should be like studs who pound away for hours until their woman collapses in a sweat-soaked orgasmic heap, but only after five mind-blowing orgasms in a row. Women are given images of moaning sex goddesses who reach orgasm as their insatiable lover thrusts deep into them while he controls their every move and takes them to sexual bliss. At least, that's what you might believe if you get your concept of lovemaking from most porno movies.
(And if you do get your ideas about sex from porn films, remember that men with nine inch erections dispassionately using women for their own satisfaction is definitely not normal.)
The truth, of course, as many of us suspect from our own lovemaking, is that most men come quite quickly, and many don't know how to prevent premature ejaculation - or they've long since given it up as a hopeless cause - while most women never come at all during vaginal intercourse. That may be hard to believe; maybe you even believe there's something wrong with you if you're a man who can't make love for ages or you're a woman who can't achieve orgasm during sex, but research has shown these things are normal.
One survey, by VulvaVelvet, showed that less than one woman in five claims to reach orgasm during intercourse without any additional stimulation. Other surveys have produced similar results: over 20 years ago, Shere Hite's surveys showed that only one woman in four of women reached orgasm through intercourse without more stimulation of their clitoris. Most of the rest only came if they had a helping hand on their clitoris. Things are no different today.
However, maybe this is missing the real issue. Maybe we should be asking, "Does this matter?" I guess the answer depends on what each woman wants. Some women may just crave more connection and affection during sex, wanting more more caressing, oral sex and intimacy before vaginal penetration, and to have one or more orgasms before penetration, then the solution lies in her lover taking a different approach to lovemaking. If, however, what she wants is to have an orgasm during vaginal intercourse, then she needs the sex positions and techniques that are more likely to make her come - and a lover who can last long enough to make sure she reaches orgasm.
Hmm...now that begins to sound a bit more challenging.
So, here are some ideas that may help. I'm going to assume that most women need clitoral stimulation of some kind, to reach orgasm, whether this is during intercourse or not. While some women can come from vaginal thrusting alone, most do not, and stimulation of the G-spot depends on the man not ejaculating soon after lovemaking starts, as generally happens..
So here we will offer suggestions as to which sex positions will help a woman to reach orgasm during intercourse, one way or another.
First choice is the familiar missionary position. You'll have noticed, no doubt, that normally the erect penis doesn't go anywhere near the clitoris during intercourse. But the normal man on top sex position can be modified so that the woman receives more pressure on her clitoris, using what's called the Coital Alignment Technique.
After the man enters his partner, face to face, with him on top, he shifts his body higher up, with the result that his penis is entering her vagina from a sharper angle. The bottom of his penis will then be pressed against the area of her clitoris. When the couple are in position, he doesn't thrust. In fact, he pretty much lies on his partner so that his body is shifted higher up, and the couple rock their hips against each other until they both reach orgasm.
This can also be tried with the woman on top, which is likely to be more successful if the man is of large build.
The next likely candidate for achieving orgasm during intercourse is the woman on top sex position. This can lead to orgasm for a woman since she can alter her rhythm of thrusting, adapt the angle of her body, and make sure the depth of penetration is such that she gets the stimulation on her clitoris and vagina most likely to bring her to orgasm.
A similar idea but with the female partner facing away from the man is a position known as the "Reverse Cowgirl". You can work out where that name comes from, I'm sure!
There are another two positions to consider if you're into orgasmic intercourse. First off, if rear entry sex does it for you, there's ample opportunity when you're enjoying sex this way for either partner to play with her clitoris as intercourse proceeds. Making sure that the woman comes before her partner does is crucial, so he may need to reduce the rate of thrusting or stop thrusting altogether during sex so that she can achieve her orgasm. As a couple, you may well be able to reach your orgasms simultaneously.
Last but not least, in this list of sexual positions for orgasm, is the side by side looking at each other position. It's much more romantic than the rear entry position, which some women think is a bit objectifying, and it allows for both gentle, slow lovemaking and faster thrusting. Either he or she can easily reach her clitoris, keeping the pace right until it's time to increase it and achieve orgasm.
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(And if you do get your ideas about sex from porn films, remember that men with nine inch erections dispassionately using women for their own satisfaction is definitely not normal.)
The truth, of course, as many of us suspect from our own lovemaking, is that most men come quite quickly, and many don't know how to prevent premature ejaculation - or they've long since given it up as a hopeless cause - while most women never come at all during vaginal intercourse. That may be hard to believe; maybe you even believe there's something wrong with you if you're a man who can't make love for ages or you're a woman who can't achieve orgasm during sex, but research has shown these things are normal.
One survey, by VulvaVelvet, showed that less than one woman in five claims to reach orgasm during intercourse without any additional stimulation. Other surveys have produced similar results: over 20 years ago, Shere Hite's surveys showed that only one woman in four of women reached orgasm through intercourse without more stimulation of their clitoris. Most of the rest only came if they had a helping hand on their clitoris. Things are no different today.
However, maybe this is missing the real issue. Maybe we should be asking, "Does this matter?" I guess the answer depends on what each woman wants. Some women may just crave more connection and affection during sex, wanting more more caressing, oral sex and intimacy before vaginal penetration, and to have one or more orgasms before penetration, then the solution lies in her lover taking a different approach to lovemaking. If, however, what she wants is to have an orgasm during vaginal intercourse, then she needs the sex positions and techniques that are more likely to make her come - and a lover who can last long enough to make sure she reaches orgasm.
Hmm...now that begins to sound a bit more challenging.
So, here are some ideas that may help. I'm going to assume that most women need clitoral stimulation of some kind, to reach orgasm, whether this is during intercourse or not. While some women can come from vaginal thrusting alone, most do not, and stimulation of the G-spot depends on the man not ejaculating soon after lovemaking starts, as generally happens..
So here we will offer suggestions as to which sex positions will help a woman to reach orgasm during intercourse, one way or another.
First choice is the familiar missionary position. You'll have noticed, no doubt, that normally the erect penis doesn't go anywhere near the clitoris during intercourse. But the normal man on top sex position can be modified so that the woman receives more pressure on her clitoris, using what's called the Coital Alignment Technique.
After the man enters his partner, face to face, with him on top, he shifts his body higher up, with the result that his penis is entering her vagina from a sharper angle. The bottom of his penis will then be pressed against the area of her clitoris. When the couple are in position, he doesn't thrust. In fact, he pretty much lies on his partner so that his body is shifted higher up, and the couple rock their hips against each other until they both reach orgasm.
This can also be tried with the woman on top, which is likely to be more successful if the man is of large build.
The next likely candidate for achieving orgasm during intercourse is the woman on top sex position. This can lead to orgasm for a woman since she can alter her rhythm of thrusting, adapt the angle of her body, and make sure the depth of penetration is such that she gets the stimulation on her clitoris and vagina most likely to bring her to orgasm.
A similar idea but with the female partner facing away from the man is a position known as the "Reverse Cowgirl". You can work out where that name comes from, I'm sure!
There are another two positions to consider if you're into orgasmic intercourse. First off, if rear entry sex does it for you, there's ample opportunity when you're enjoying sex this way for either partner to play with her clitoris as intercourse proceeds. Making sure that the woman comes before her partner does is crucial, so he may need to reduce the rate of thrusting or stop thrusting altogether during sex so that she can achieve her orgasm. As a couple, you may well be able to reach your orgasms simultaneously.
Last but not least, in this list of sexual positions for orgasm, is the side by side looking at each other position. It's much more romantic than the rear entry position, which some women think is a bit objectifying, and it allows for both gentle, slow lovemaking and faster thrusting. Either he or she can easily reach her clitoris, keeping the pace right until it's time to increase it and achieve orgasm.
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